A bride-to-be friend of mine just emailed me asking how to deal with the pre-wedding anxiety. Given that I just went through this, I had a lot of feedback - most of which had been passed on to me through others. And given that I have 5 upcoming weddings to attend, I know that the heart of wedding season is still alive, so I figured I would pay it forward and share what I wrote here as well. Feel free to send it to any brides you know.
No one will even realize if something isn’t perfect. But they will realize if the bride is too spastic. (This helped me a lot.)
As much as you are planning this for other people, the reality is that this day is about YOU AND YOUR FIANCÉ and no one else.
People probably won’t remember too many of the details, but they will remember the overall experience, and most importantly, how drunk they got at the dance party.
Your life becomes normal again (with several more hours to spare) post-wedding. Though you may still sneak a peek at a wedding blog or two. Honestly, who can resist the gorgeous photos?
Be authentic. Be calm. Be in the moment.
Check out (both physically and mentally) two days before your wedding. What’s done is done, what isn’t…isn’t. Let someone else deal with it, while YOU enjoy your guests and your groom. You are the movie star. Walk in stride.
And finally (and perhaps most importantly), take sleeping pills (e.g. Tylenol PM or Benadryl) the night before. I didn’t, and I was up all night long, wreaking havoc for my make-up artist as he incessantly applied concealer under my eyes the next day. Loss of sleep also causes massive mood swings, and given the fact that it will already be the most emotional day of your life, you should probably avoid those.
What a fantastic idea. A group in London has developed a concept called the Cycle-In Cinema, a pop up movie theater that is fully powered by the audience on bikes. It’s the Drive-In theater redone, and much greener. (Plus, you don’t have to feel guilty ordering popcorn since you’re burning off calories for over an hour!)
Once you arrive on your bike, you just plug in to a generator to help power the screening. The audio can be transmitted to you on your iPhone.
What I love most about this is how scalable it can be for any city around the world - the venue used can be an actual building, or even a local city park. I just emailed them to volunteer to start the first Cycle-In screening in San Francisco. I think it would be a hit here, given how many people are eco fanatics and have bikes. You can volunteer to help get your city involved here.